So I promised advanced examples of male accusation. And you can read them below.

Example 1.

The girl put the glass on the table. And the man wants this glass to stand 10 cm to the right.

Example 2.

The man at work was scolded by the head. Of course, it is not the man himself who is to blame, but the leader. But the wife will get it too. It was she who did not remind him that it was necessary to finish something there at work at the weekend, which he did not finish during working hours because of his laziness.

She, in his opinion, should have woken up on Saturday early, at 6 o'clock in the morning and looked through all the documents that he had not completed. Underline all mistakes, put things in order in that pile of documents, throw in a draft of what needed to be done. And she didn’t do it and didn’t even remind.

But let a miracle happen and the girl did it all that way. Woke up at 6 am, worked for three hours, made breakfast and coffee in bed, morning sex, etc.

Do you think a man will be pleased and grateful to his girlfriend or wife? Of course not.

More precisely, for a short time he will be satisfied, but then he will say that she made a mistake in the draft of the document and did not print it the way he wanted. But he will still use a draft, and will not do from scratch.

Example 3. A man is a loser in life.

It is clear that a man who blames circumstances and other people, including his woman, for everything, cannot be very successful by definition. And okay, if God did not give such a man bright talents. He then lives more or less normally.

But if the ability is there, if the ability is higher than that of most of his colleagues, and the success is much lower, then beware of the woman. Why a woman, you might ask? After all, what does she have to do with the failure of a man in business?

And then the accusations come in. They can be straightforward and very veiled.

Straight lines are understandable. The woman is to blame for the fact that the man does not earn money, since she does not give him time for professional growth, does not give him money (for example, the family budget), does not listen to his plans, does not support, etc. I stayed at home for 5 minutes, and at that time he could have made us 10 million, but did not earn because of her.

Veiled accusations are even more common than direct ones. These are idealized stories about how, before meeting a woman, a man had everything just super-duper. Money flowed like a river, friends were constantly in the house, he moved up the career ladder almost every 4 months.

And then he met his woman. (or wife) There was no money, career stopped or went down, friends stopped going home to him. It goes without saying that these are all fairy tales about the white bull. But it can be more difficult to object to them than to direct accusations.

Example 4. A man got fat.

Of course, the wife is to blame. It is she who overfeeds him. It is she who does not allow you to go in for sports, etc.

Example 5. A man is a bad lover.

Well, here already God himself ordered to blame the woman. In short, for some reason she does not know how to get aroused by the fact that he grabbed the girl by the ass 30 seconds before the alleged sex. It is true, after all, that a woman is worthy of all censure for such behavior))

Example 6. Children.

Well, finally there are children. Now, of course, you can blame them the same way. It became several times less time, money, effort. And now we can safely say that a career, etc. ruined for the sake of the children.

A man is not a bit embarrassed by the fact that 80% of successful men have children whom they themselves raise to one degree or another.

Example 7. The woman looked wrong. She didn't say that. I didn't guess myself.

And of course, when there is nothing to complain about, the wife is ideal (and smart, and beautiful, and slender, despite the fact that she gave birth to several children, and does not sit on his neck, and the children are well brought up, and the house is clean, and so on. ), it means nothing. Our man can blame a woman anytime, anywhere.

Even if a woman behaved perfectly, there is still something to complain about. And this, of course, "You didn't look that way and said not that."

Didn't look like that- it means she looked evil, without a smile. As if a woman should always look at her man (especially this one) with a smile of bliss on her face.

I didn't say so- this is generally any action.

So, what is the real fault of a woman who lives with such a man?

The woman's accusations, of course, are not as harmless as it seems from the outside. After all, they are constantly, little by little, from different sides and angles. Openly, hidden (in stories), then often from relatives and acquaintances (after he told about the events in his interpretation).

And after a few months, a woman may begin to feel herself worthless and worthless to anyone. What will happen in a few years. Already he will feel like an "old woman". There will be no joy and sparkle in the eyes, no energy for the implementation of something of their own. Often such women, whom the husband constantly blames for everything, have no desire to live at all. They live only for the sake of children.

Therefore, of course, this must be fought.

The first is to understand that you are not to blame for anything in front of your man. (except. I repeat that you endure it and live with it)

It was not in vain that I gave so many examples of possible accusations on the part of a man. There are a lot of them and there is practically any situation in life.

I am describing them so that you understand that the path to trying to become a perfect woman is a path to nowhere.

After all, no matter what happens, no matter how ideally you behave, no matter what you do, you will still remain guilty of everything bad and even good. (it is not enough)

Therefore, behavior aimed at becoming an ideal woman for a man who constantly blames others and especially his woman for everything is a dead end with no way out.

I will repeat this thought again so as not to cause misunderstanding. I am not opposed to a woman somehow changing her behavior. This is often a good strategy.

But in this case (when a man blames everyone around) the best change is just to understand that trying to become ideal so that a man stops blaming is a useless exercise.

Your man just likes to blame. He likes to be a whiner. He likes to be a Victim and blame everyone around for his failures, and you in the first place.

The second is to fight back behavior such as accusation..

If you calmly transfer the accusation to yourself, or even say that you will try to improve, then by doing so you practically encourage the man to continue accusing you in the first place.

Walk through the standard charges I described above. Find those that do not fit the standard, but only apply to you.

Reread it almost every day. Inspire yourself that you have nothing to do with the failures and demands of a man. Answer the man in words, according to an approximate algorithm:

- Failures in some area of ​​life? So could it be you? You didn’t do it, you don’t learn professionalism, you gave up one thing and didn’t complete another, you dropped down, etc.

- Look at yourself from the side. When I met you, you aspired to this and to this. And now you just sit and blame everyone around for everything. Me (a woman), a leader and even my children.

- A bunch of men, whose children, wife, achieve success and they also have difficulties. But they somehow overcome them, and do not blame everyone around and do not whine.

The text is, of course, approximate. We need to adapt it for you, for specific accusations and whining.

Third, take his accusations to the point of absurdity. So that a slight irony appears.

Pick a couple of his favorite accusations and bring them to the point of absurdity. For example, your man says that because of the children there is no time, so he does not do the job, so there is no success and no money.

You can say: “Well, everything, your children are already to blame for the fact that you do not know how to earn money. How did they interfere with your career? "

If he says something like: "Time was short when the children appeared." You could say something like: “Almost all successful men your age have or have had children. So they somehow managed to work and raise children. So you try, and not blame the children. "

Fourth is not to support his accusations against other people..

I must say right away that this technique does not work in isolation. That is, even if from tomorrow you stop supporting his accusations against other people altogether, this does not mean that he will stop accusing you.

But to some extent, this technique works and not so badly.

For example, your man blames his boss or his parents or someone else for something. Sometimes you just want to join criticism, especially those people whom you, for some reason, dislike. (mother-in-law, for example)

Do not do that.

For example, a man blames his mother for something, albeit justly. Don't support the accusations. Say that "Yes, all people have their faults." Or “Yes, it doesn’t do something, but in principle it isn’t obliged to do it for you”... Or “Yes, my mother is like that, but you shouldn't blame her, but focus on yourself, your earning money, for example, and not suffer from a lack of help from your parents.”

Fifth - if nothing helps, and the accusations are very strong(it happens that women even have thoughts that they do not want to live and live only for the sake of children) and constant, then of course, as an option - this is a psychological distance and maybe even a divorce.

Psychological distance is, first of all, not even parting or living in a separate apartment (although this is also a distance, of course), how much more to live your own life and an order of magnitude less to live the life of your man.

Listen to him less, trust him less, try to inspire, save, believe less. In general, it is better to read about this in the book.

A lot more mind your own business. Take care of your career, your appearance, make new friends, master some useful skill for work, or even just learn something that you have wanted to learn for a long time.

If after such actions the number of scandals between you and the man has not decreased significantly, then you are doing something wrong. With an increase in psychological distance, the number of scandals always decreases significantly. (sometimes the truth and some closeness disappears. But in this case it is more important to reduce the number of accusations and scandals and at least somehow restore your self-esteem).

Therefore, if everything is unchanged, then take a closer look at yourself. Are you trying to advise your man something?

You are trying to convince a man of something. (that you can't live in such a mess, that you need to do something around the house, that you need to treat you in one way or another, etc.) Stop doing it. Take care of yourself, try to build a psychological distance to the maximum.

Let's sum it up.

Men who blame everyone around for their failures and just like that are not so few. The severity of this feature is, of course, very different. But if the craving for accusations is strong, then a woman inevitably falls under it.

Trying to get a better woman to accommodate all the accusations is usually a dead-end strategy. (If there are not many accusations, but there are, in fact, quite normal expectations of a man, then of course, you can adjust). It is necessary to understand that it is not you who are to blame for something, but the man lives in such a way that he likes it so much and he blames everyone and everything around, whatever they do and no matter how hard they try. He likes to blame everyone in a row, and his woman in the first place. Therefore, you need to not allow yourself to be blamed and, if necessary, distance yourself from the man.

Best regards, Rashid Kirranov.

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Over the past decades, the world has changed dramatically, and the rate of change will only increase in the near future. But a person does not change as quickly as the reality around him.

“I'm insecure. I don’t know anything and I don’t understand anything. And I am generally a loser ... ”- this is what we sometimes think ourselves. Probably, if the other person tells us something like that, our anger will transfer to him. But we cannot be offended on our own. It is difficult to explain why we tend to look for negative qualities in ourselves. The reason could be our upbringing or inheritance. In any case, there could be many reasons for this.

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Bans on crossing national borders, leaving cities and staying at work - among other things, governments around the world have been forced to resort to such measures to stop the coronavirus epidemic. Being locked up for a long time can be a mental burden. How can you survive the isolation caused by the coronavirus?

Just as we can develop behaviors that attract people, we can also develop toxic behaviors that scare the people around us. This toxic behavior can negatively affect our relationships with family or friends. Therefore, in order to care for those we love and not threaten our support system, we must be able to identify and change behaviors that frighten others. Sometimes venomous behavior causes jealousy. It is a negative emotion that can harm our relationships and affect communication.

My ex-husband was a complete psychopath. He raised his hand against me, took me by force, insulted and humiliated me. When we parted ways after almost 8 years of marriage, he left with a suitcase, in which my pride, self-esteem, hopes and dreams remained. And he took it not with his own hands, but with his own words.

This is called emotional abuse. And if physical abuse is more obvious, not everyone can recognize emotional abuse, not everyone will recognize that this is it. Therefore, learn from the signs that I understood, because in fact, emotional abuse can lead to physical abuse.

1. He makes you believe that you are the only one to blame.

Emotional psychopaths are not always bad, most of the time they are all charm. Here you are quarreling, but he says to you calmly: “Darling, I do not want to quarrel. You, too, do not want your unnecessary emotions to ruin our evening? "

See what he did? He did not focus on the problem, and did not seem to shout, but made you to blame for everything. This is what emotional psychopaths do.

2. He is brainwashing you.

This is when he distorts information in such a way that it makes you doubt your own thoughts. A very common practice of emotional psychopaths.

I will never forget when I found out about my husband's infidelity after he accidentally left his mail open. When I told him about this, he started shouting at ME:

“You got it all wrong. I can’t believe you don’t trust me - it’s so much like you! I can't believe that I put up with all this, how you are destroying our marriage, ”and so on and so forth.

After several days of his performances like this, I really began to think that I had come up with all this myself - about his betrayal. When an emotional psychopath has no excuses, he will come up with one (making you believe your own insanity).

3. You are always at fault.

This point is similar to the first one, but slightly different. Here I mean that he accuses you of all human sins, including him. Is he not doing his job? It's your fault, because you took him out at home. Was he fined by a traffic cop? It was you who angered him, and he rashly went to the wrong sign.

Unhappy in your marriage? You are a terrible wife.

4. He humiliates you.

Emotional psychopaths know that they are not worthy of you and the relationship with you, so they will try to control you. Lest you think you deserve the best, he will humiliate you and drive you into your head. that you are pathetic and ugly.

And you will begin to believe in it and become more attached to it, thinking that no one else will love you.

5. It isolates you.

He will prevent you from seeing your friends, because they see who he is and how he influences you. He will tell you that they do not understand how much he loves you and therefore are not worthy of you. He cannot allow them to destroy his brainwashing work.

Question to the psychologist:

Hello, I'm really desperate. The relationship is coming to naught, we have been living together for 6 years, married for 5 years, two children 3.7 years old and 7 months old.

My husband eats me all the time, constantly nagging for everything: I don’t save electricity, water, gasoline, I do not drive this way, I do not answer that way, it feels like he’s looking for an excuse to just take me out.

I myself am a kind, cheerful, sympathetic person, if you don't touch me. As soon as my husband's saw turns on, everything, I am a beast, they hurt me, amaze, offend his words. No, he does not yell, he does not offend me, he just quietly saws, and he starts yelling when I almost rush at him with foam at my mouth, then he goes berserk, he can peck at the walls, yell like a patient. Then he calms down and everything is fine with him.

I am a squeezed rag, I immediately have less milk, eternal health problems ... It seems that he is all in a high.

For example, such a situation: I say "let's go to the store to see the chandeliers", he "let's go" to me. We arrived, the baby is asleep in the car, we don't turn off the engine, we go look, we come back, we go home, he is in no mood. I am cheerful, I ask what happened and it starts, “we don’t save, we burn so much gasoline, you don’t have any savings, I turned on the light in that room and left, that’s the endless diarrhea of ​​remembering all my not economical actions.

And I like to go shopping, take a look, just go somewhere, just not to sit at home, I've had enough - 2 small children.

He does not understand me at all and only nags endlessly, broke my whole psyche and the children, they see all this showdown.

He is constantly nervous, we leave the apartment, I stand at the apartment with a stroller, for example, I fly in the clouds, wait for him, and he comes out "that you would have called the elevator long ago" or "start the car, what are you standing by" or "that the door is not for me you can open "(he is with a cradle from the stroller)," that you are barely trudging ", etc.

If I bought something wrong or something happened, he will twist any situation so that I am to blame. I already say this to him on the forehead, even if he is to blame, he will still turn out that I "scribbled".

I stopped reacting adequately to his attacks, I immediately start to offend and end the conversation there.

I can no longer live in the regime of some kind of imaginary economy, eternal discontent, booming and an eternally nervous husband. I don’t know what to do about it.

I thought it might be about me, but without him I’m a cheerful person, not aggressive and there is practically no anger. Nerves are calm, nobody pisses me off. I apologize for the vinaigrette, my head is confused. I don't want to ruin my family, how can I be in this situation, how to make a life together without mutual reproaches and scandals?

The question is answered by the psychologist Flying Igor Anatolyevich.

Hello, Inna. It is important to know whether the husband has always been like this or has begun to behave this way, recently, realizing that you are financially dependent on him and in this way, he shows his importance, playing "economical and ideal man". I can assume that the husband was originally like that, only when you were busy not only with raising children, then it was easier to endure it and did not pay attention to such behavior. First of all, you must understand and accept for yourself that you are not living off your husband, but raising joint children, and this is valuable, at least no less if you worked. The husband is now taking advantage of the fact that you cannot start working, as he understands that you will not leave your 7 month old baby and cannot start working. Your financial needs are clearly not overstated ..., you do not require a nanny for children, trips to a restaurant, expensive concerts, sports sections?

How to be?

1. In no case should you talk about divorce, since you do not want it yourself, and most importantly, your husband will quickly get used to it and will not take you seriously .. Given his character, he himself will begin to tell you that you can get divorced ... which will devalue you even more.

2. You can come across a recommendation "to live separately". In most cases - this recommendation, the beginning of the end of a relationship or throughout life, the game of "leaving - coming" is traced, which is already becoming familiar to the family ... and everyone understands that in the end they will be together again. The recommendation "to live separately" can be used as an exceptional case, which is not relevant in your situation and will only harm ...

A person can change only when there is an awareness of the problem and, most importantly, the DESIRE to solve this problem. While my husband definitely does not have a desire to solve this problem ... At the level of "everyday vampirism" he has become a habit of "grumble", calmly conveying his point of view, where he is already waiting for "your explosion" in advance and then he will "splash out his negativity. ". blaming everything on you, where, in his opinion, he is a "good and caring husband", and you do not know how to control your emotions. After that, the husband calms down and is satisfied with life, and you are emotionally drained ... and you need time to recover ..., before the next "reasonable nagging of the husband."

You personally need to realize that your real victory will be if you do not follow the scenario of your husband, from whom he enjoys, at least on an unconscious level. Therefore, your strength is in an ADEQUATE attitude to the situation, calmness, use, when the situation requires, elements of humor. If you change your model of behavior, then at least you will not suffer and spoil your life from "nagging and saving your husband", and there is also a high probability that your husband will change his model of behavior, seeing that you do not react painfully to him " teachings "

When he starts again, then track such a model of behavior at the initial stage and look at the husband as a "comic character", realizing that you can not go according to the previous scenario and already get moral satisfaction from this. It is necessary to make up several phrases, which, if necessary, you can say to him and change them depending on the situation, or even keep silent. For example, you can answer him in your own words, but with the following meaning:

1. Probably I love you, for your such attitude to the family, I decided not to argue, because you will always be right. 2. Yes, you're right, I want our children to grow up faster and I could go to work, so that there is more money in the family and we don't count every penny. 3. Even now I am thinking about looking for a job, but I will have to find a nanny who will have to pay a salary. 4. I want to start attending the sports section in order to be attractive, but since there is no money for this, it remains to be content with rare shopping trips. 5. If such an absurdity as the light is not turned off, then you can calmly answer him that you are very grateful that you reminded that you need to save energy, we can really become richer if we can save on this.

You need to speak according to the situation, calmly, confidently, but try to avoid sarcasm. He may be unhappy at the beginning, let him shout ... as he shouts, he will stop, and at that moment you will realize that you are no longer following him and are really changing your behavior model.

Also, do not forget about compliments, if the husband really deserves it. Whatever the husband, but you are above all a WOMAN and you need to look good, think how, taking into account the character of your husband, find mutual interests and enjoy it yourself! You have to be flexible in family relationships. If boring, then act ADEQUALLY, as written above, if you see that everything is really good, then enjoy family life. After all, the goal is not to "build up a husband", but to improve family relations, where everyone will be happy: you, husband, children!

I recommend that you read the BOOKS OF VIRGINIA SATIR, if you enter it in any of the search engines, you will find them, in my opinion these are some of the best books on family psychology. Also read the book by the author SHEINOV VP "Hidden Control of Man" (by entering the author and the title of the book, you will also find it), where you will also find useful information for yourself, learn how to competently respond to manipulations, make compliments and much more. I understand that, given your position, you do not have the opportunity to consult a psychologist, then you need to start yourself to study what will bring success to the whole family.

With all my heart, I wish you success and all the very best !!!

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Many men (not all, but most) like to blame everyone around for everything bad that happens to him.

Parents are to blame for the fact that they spoke rudely to him in childhood, did not give him enough love, or vice versa, loved and pampered him too much.

The teachers are to blame for the fact that he was poorly taught, they could not interest him in studying. And, in general, the education system does not teach anything useful at school and at the institute.

The boss is to blame for the fact that he demands from him any nonsense that is not related to work, does not value his efforts, does not fulfill his direct duties, and does not pay what he has to pay.

Friends set him up, sometimes betray him, they don't even help, although he helped them a lot over the decades.

And so we get to his woman or even his wife. This is the closest person to a man. Was she not to blame for anything?

Don't believe me?

It is possible that you have a rare type of man who does not blame anyone around. It is possible that you just had little contact with him, and on first dates this is not particularly noticeable.

But if not, then it may very well be that you will be the main person who will get all the "pluses" of communication.

Or you have a male exception who likes to blame everyone around you, but this does not affect you specifically.

I hasten to "please" you that this is not for long. A major setback in a man's life, some noticeable weakening of a woman or her position (pregnancy, decrease in income, etc.) (read an article on my blog "A man became insolent after the birth of a child, what to do") and you will feel the accusations on yourself in the best possible way. After all, a man very much loves in all his problems, first of all, to blame his woman.

Something I am cynical today, negative, I blame men for everything)), I do not believe in love, feelings that can help a man and a woman overcome any negative.

To some extent, this is so. The strong love of a man and a woman for each other can overcome quite a lot. But family life is both pros and cons.

If a man constantly blames a woman for all his failures, or even blames just like that, in the background, then love, which can overcome everything, can come to naught. Since she herself (love) in a woman can fade away from constant criticism and accusations.

So, how does it manifest itself that a man begins to blame a woman for everything, criticize her and become impudent?

First, consider situations where a man behaves relatively correctly. Those. there is at least some minimal fictitious reason for the accusation.

- The woman said nothing when, according to the man, it was necessary to say something. For example, a man said something about himself. Let's say that he bought himself a new lighter, but not just an iron one, but from some kind of stainless iron.

Before loading a woman's brain with meaningless garbage, from her point of view, the man did not even think for a second about whether she would be interested in listening to it or not. Usually, of course, absolutely uninteresting. Because her thoughts are loaded whether there is enough money for this month, whether the older child will have time to prepare for the test, and where to buy a winter overalls cheaper than the youngest daughter, etc. And also problems at work and the fact that it would be nice to spend more time with children. Therefore, the woman said nothing. Well, a man spent senseless or even harmful money, well, let him be happy. She does not want to listen for another hour about some piece of iron, which is needed only in order for him (the man) to smoke and spoil his health. And then also endure the smell from it.

But instead of realizing this and apologizing for the informational rubbish or simply transferring the topic of conversation, the man takes offense and begins to accuse the woman of not listening to him or supporting him.

Second option.

The woman was silent again. But, of course, not just like that. She said nothing, as recently, maybe half an hour ago or even yesterday, the man seriously offended her. And now she expects from him to talk about this situation, or at least an apology, and not at all to talk about a lighter or something else not very important. (Let the topic of conversation now be not buying a new lighter, but, for example, planning a weekend getaway)

But why would she hear about weekend getaways if a woman doesn't want to spend the weekend with a man, or even doesn't want to live with him at all? The man again did not deign to think about such a simple thing and climbs with all sorts of nonsense.

First, talk, apologize, give flowers, do something else, and then you can discuss the weekend. Or even a lighter.

The third option... The woman answered in monosyllables (in the eyes of the man) to some of his messages.

However, she has some strong problems of her own that occupy all of her consciousness and the man knows very well about these problems. And at the moment she wants support from a man, wants to be listened to, and not so that he talks about what is important to him and even today he has not yet had time to screw up anything and offend a woman.

And of course, when at that moment when a woman expects words of support from a man, or at least to be heard, a man begins to talk about something of his own, then she is disappointed.

The best thing she can do is to remain silent or to answer in monosyllables.

And a man often at this moment begins to blame a woman. In vain he does it, of course. After all, they say that girls have a short memory, but not always.

Here are just three options for a man to act. The man behaves like a playful pig, who is thrown into a china shop. And when the dishes fall to the floor due to the fact that he knocks down the shelves, he blames the dishes for falling. Sometimes he even falls into anger and begins to destroy everything on purpose.

Let's give more examples.

Now the woman says something, but does not show very strong enthusiasm..

And, for example, a man talks about his plans for his future life. How he will correct some of his bad and annoying habits.

How will he learn a new profession, find a high-paying job, buy a new apartment, organize a new business, lose weight, go in for sports, be gentle with his wife, stop arguing, etc.

It would seem that a woman should support such plans with great and unceasing enthusiasm. After all, if everything that the man has planned, then it seems like a woman's life should radically change for the better. Become a branch of Paradise on earth.

And the woman, yes, listens, but without much enthusiasm. Why?

Usually a man again puts a bunch of information garbage on a woman.

First example.

The man's plans are about like Napoleon's, only the man, as practice has shown, is not like Napoleon, but not even the neighbor Petya Ivanov, who makes 30% of the planned and then his wife constantly scolds him for it.

Our man has practically the same plans. And these plans are not being implemented at all. And his wife already knows this very well for decades of family life.

This has already been repeatedly tested on a variety of plans, from sports and weight loss, to learning something new or even something simple, like helping a woman around the house.

So why should a woman feel enthusiasm when he once again "hangs noodles on her ears"?

From listening to information garbage, which is 99.99% just garbage. After all, a woman knows perfectly well that the plans of this man are never implemented in practice and he forgets about them the next day. (even if in a week). And listening to plans and imitating enthusiasm is difficult, especially if you know that everything is useless. It's better to watch some kind of entertaining series. TV does not require at least to be admired and listened to something.

Example two.

The man is the hero. He didn't screw up anything. Everything is normal in a woman's life and there are no major problems. (not related to a man) A man is made of steel. The man said, the man did. And now he also talks about his plans.

However, this Hero with a capital letter did not bother to tell the woman how the implementation of his plans has to do with her.

And now a man tells, let's say, that he is going to buy a house or a new car in the near future, get a new job, where he will be paid twice as much. For a man, this is a super-duper event. But what is this for a woman? If she were his wife or bride, then of course yes, also an event.

And if she thinks that she is no one for him and thinks that it is necessary to leave him in the near future and not waste her time, then how interesting is her man's plans to buy him a house? Yes, in moderation, of course, if at all interesting.

And maybe she listens, since the man is a real hero, but, of course, she cannot portray enthusiasm.

And look, sometimes it is enough for a woman to just keep silent (not pouting offendedly, but simply being silent and maybe even smiling) or even not showing super-stormy enthusiasm in order to cause extreme discontent in a man.

What will happen in more advanced situations? For example, when a woman didn't do anything special? The man will still be unhappy, of course. If there is the role of a victim who blames others for everything, and especially his woman, then this behavior will manifest itself in everything.

As you probably already guessed, fundamentally nothing will change. A man will still find a reason to blame his woman, even with ideal behavior.

Examples of this and how to get out of the accusations, I will write in the second part of this article at the link.

Best regards, Rashid Kirranov.