Class hour

"Culture of Etiquette"

Methods: explanatory and illustrative, reproductive, problematic, partially search.

Forms of organization of cognitive activity: whole class, group, individual, pair work.

Tasks:

1. Instill in students knowledge of the rules of etiquette.

2. Developing students' sense of responsibility for their behavior.

3. Formation of aesthetic taste in behavior.

4. Cultivate a respectful attitude towards others.

Planned results: students will learn good manners; discuss the issue of etiquette culture.

Equipment: rebus, drawings on the theme “Polite People”, cards - polite words, cards - tasks for the game “Friendly People”, proverb.

Class progress

Updating knowledge

Guys, today we have a very interesting and serious topic for class. Which one, you will find out by solving the puzzle.

K+ ’ + + a etiquette

– What are we going to talk about?(About culture etiquette)

Teacher reads a poemA. Usacheva “What is etiquette?”

What is etiquette -We should know from childhood.These are the norms of behavior:How to go to a birthday party?How to meet? As it is?How to call? How to get up? How to sit down?How to greet an adult?There are many different questions.And it gives the answer This is the same etiquette.

2. Brainstorming “Etiquette is…”.

"Etiquette is..."

Students are asked to think about the question, what does “etiquette” mean and why do people need it?

After a little reflection, students express their thoughts, which are written on mini-flowers and glued to a sheet (future newspaper).

In the explanatory dictionary of S.I. Ozhegova:

Etiquette (from fr. etiquette - label, inscription) - rules of behavior of people in society

Etiquette helps people feel as comfortable as possible around each other. He obliges them to have good manners, thanks to which people are able tomake communication mutually enjoyable expressing respect for others.

Why do people need to follow the rules of etiquette?

Compliance with and knowledge of etiquette allows us to present a general picture about a person, for example, how attentive he is to people, where he grew up, what his style of communication is, in a word, by a person’s behavior one can determine the level of his upbringing.

A well-mannered person will always and everywhere be correct. According to the norms of etiquette, his behavior will be the same everywhere, both at work or during official events, and at home. Because demeanor is a person’s ability to adequately conduct himself, his speech, gait, tone, facial expressions and gestures under any circumstances. But manners can be both good and bad.

Good manners:

- modesty;

- considerate treatment of others;

- the ability to control your words;

- possessing a sense of tact.

Bad manners:

- tactlessness;

- habit of speaking loudly;

- hostility towards others is manifested openly;

- deliberate desire to insult the dignity of others;

- disdainful attitude towards other people's interests;

- foul language;

- rudeness;

— shameless imposition of one’s desires and will on other people;

- sloppiness in clothing.

3. Group work “Good manners”

The class is divided into 5 groups. Each group prepared a demonstration of good manners.

Group 1 – manner of sitting and standing

Group 2 – manner of sitting down and standing up

Group 3 – manner of walking and giving way

Group 4 –rules of politeness when communicating with neighbors and friends

group - rules of communication with family and communication between boys and girls

4. Conversation based on reading “The Tale of the Politeness of the Rabbit.”

Once upon a time there lived a Rabbit who was very modest and polite. One day, having eaten plenty of cabbage in the peasant's garden, he was getting ready to go home when he suddenly noticed a fox. She was returning to the forest. She had failed to steal a chicken from the farmer's yard, and she was very angry and hungry. The Rabbit's heart trembled. Run, but where? And the Rabbit rushed headlong towards the cave. He did not know that another formidable danger was waiting for him there - a Snake had settled in the cave.The rabbit, however, was well brought up and knew that he was not supposed to enter someone else's house without permission. “I need to say hello,” he thought, “but with whom? With a cave, of course!” And, sitting down on his hind legs, the Rabbit politely said:

Hello, good cave! Please allow me to enter.

How happy the Snake was when he heard the Rabbit’s voice! She really loved rabbit meat.

Come in, come in! - she answered, wanting to deceive the Rabbit.

Sorry to bother you,” he said. - I completely forgot that the rabbit is waiting for me! Goodbye! - and rushed to run away as fast as he could.

The Rabbit galloped into his hole and thought that politeness never hurt anyone.

The snake curled up into a ball and grumbled:

It would be better if I didn’t answer him! Oh, these polite rabbits! He should have asked permission to enter!

— List all the polite words that the polite Rabbit said in this fairy tale.
- Imagine that the polite Rabbit opened a school of politeness in the forest. Tell us how this school will be set up.
- Remember an incident in your life when politeness helped you.
— What will you do if someone speaks rudely to you or your friends?

In preparation for class, you drew pictures on the topic "Polite man." I have placed your work on the board. At the end of class, you can come and watch them. Now let’s look at your work and tell us with whom you compared the polite person, and explain why?

Physical education

Game "Polite Hide and Seek"

The driver's task is to recognize the speaker by his voice. The driver is blindfolded. One of the students says some polite words: “Hello!”, “Good evening!”, “All the best!”, “Thank you!” etc. If the driver does not recognize the speaker by his voice, then the words of politeness are pronounced by the second or third student. If a person's voice is recognized, he drives.

Creative task “Friendly people” (work in pairs)

Guys, read the proverb:

“Don’t be noticeable, but be friendly.”

Children are given cards with the task of coming up with small dialogue scenes between a friendly teacher and a student, a buyer and a seller, a driver and a passenger, a doctor and a patient, a grandmother and a grandson, etc.

Summarizing. Reflection.

Polite manners are the quality of a person for whom respect for people is an everyday norm of behavior and a habitual way of communicating with others. This is attentiveness, manifestation of goodwill towards everyone, willingness to provide a service to everyone who needs it, friendliness, delicacy, tact, modesty.

As R. Emerson said:

“...life is not so short that people don’t have time to be polite.”

Let's summarize. What gestures are not accepted in a society of educated people?

It is forbidden:

pat your interlocutor on the shoulder;

wave your arms;

fiddle with clothes, twist buttons;

scratching your head and pulling at your ear;

drum your fingers on the table;

touch your face with your hands;

sneeze without covering yourself with your hand or handkerchief;

twirl an object aimlessly in your hands.

5. What should not be done during the performance?

6. How do the audience thank the artists for the performance?

Homework:I suggest that during the day you count how many polite words people have said to you, and how many polite words you have said to people.

Class hour on Etiquette in elementary school

Class hour on the topic “Rules of etiquette: getting to know each other”

Tasks

1. Contribute to the development of cultural behavior skills in children.

2. Teach children to make new acquaintances correctly. Equipment: instructions for children.

Class progress

Teacher's opening speech

Behavior for a person is the main science. It is better to know from childhood how to talk on the phone correctly, how to behave at the table, when visiting. It turns out that dating is also a whole science.

Why are we meeting? (Children answer.)

Acting out the role-playing situation “Getting Acquainted”

Teacher. Imagine that you are seeing each other for the first time and you definitely need to get to know each other.

(Two children act out the role-playing situation “Meeting a new friend.”)

What is the right thing to do in this situation? (Children answer.)

Role situations

Teacher. Let's imagine that you want to meet me. Let's act out a scene. I can say the words “very nice, I’m glad to meet you,” as you are being introduced to me, and it’s up to me to decide whether this acquaintance is pleasant or not.

(Acting out the ritual of getting up when meeting.

1. A boy with a girl - the boy stands up.

2. Younger with older - the younger must stand up.)

Name polite words that should be used when meeting someone. (Allow me to introduce myself. Please meet me. It’s very nice. I’m glad to meet you.)

Conclusion

Teacher. Remember simple rules.

The person being introduced should say his name first.

You and your friend met your acquaintance. Introduce them, say: “Meet me, please” - and say their name

person. But you cannot indicate: “This is my friend.” This will put the other person in an awkward position.

If the person presented is unpleasant to you, you cannot show this; you must behave politely.

If you brought a friend home, then introduce him to his parents, that is, introduce the younger ones to the older ones.

If you come to a birthday party, the host introduces everyone.

Memo

Rules of good manners when dating

1. A junior is introduced to a senior, a man to a woman, an employee to a manager.

2. When introducing peers, they introduce the person closest to themselves first. But everyone they know is introduced to their parents, and not vice versa.

3. An individual is introduced to the group.

4. At crowded receptions, guests get to know each other.

5. It is not necessary to introduce your companion during an unexpected meeting.

6. It is not necessary to introduce yourself to your companions on the road, to your neighbors at a common table, or at a meeting. You can limit yourself to a general greeting.

7. As a rule, when making an acquaintance, the one to whom the other was introduced is the first to shake hands: that is, a woman shakes her hand to a man, a senior to a junior, a leader to a subordinate.

8. The hostess always stands up to greet the guests.

9. It is customary to say hello to everyone you meet.

10. It is customary to greet the youngest first.

11. It is not customary to give your hand across the table or across the threshold.

12. Not shaking an outstretched hand is an insult.

Physical education minute

(The teacher reads a poem, the children show with gestures what they heard.)

The sun rose clear.

Good morning! - said.

Good morning! -

I shout to passers-by

Cheerful passers-by,

Looks like the morning...

But if you wake up,

And the rain on the window

Knocks and knocks

Is it dark without the sun?

Good morning,

Friends, it doesn't matter.

Cleverly thought out:

Good morning!

V. Korkin

Conversation about greetings

Teacher. There are three levels of greeting.

1. “Royal” level. Let me welcome you! I'm glad to welcome you! I salute you!

2. “Our” level. Good morning! Good afternoon Good evening! Hello!

3. “Friendly” level. Hello! Great!

If we are in a hurry, we will exchange greetings, smile at each other and go about our business. But if we want to talk a little with an acquaintance, then after the greeting we can say some more words, ask some question.

What do you think these words are? What questions? (Children answer.)

What level is this? That's right, “ours” and “friendly”. Let's write down these expressions.

"Our" level. I’m very glad (glad) to see you! How are you doing? How is your health? How are you feeling today?

"Friendly" level. Well, how are you living? What's up? How are you? What's new? How is it going?

And if we are asked a question, then we need to answer it (addressing a specific child):

Hello, Katya! I'm glad to see you! How are you doing? (Katya answers.)

At what level did we talk with Katya? (On our".)

What would Katya say if Anya were there instead of me? (Children answer.)

Let's write down our answers.

"Our" level. OK, thank you. Great, everything's fine. Not bad. Nothing. Neither good nor bad. How can I tell you... Nothing new. Badly. Doesn't matter. Worse than ever.

"Friendly" level. Fine! So-so. Not so great. Things are bad.

Reflections

Teacher. Now let's think about this... Two people met, said hello, one asked the other how things were, he replied that everything was fine. Can we finish the conversation? Yes, you can.

What if the answer was that things were bad? Can we finish the conversation? Of course not. If a person feels bad and complains about his affairs, you should continue the conversation and ask what happened.

And now I’ll draw a face like this. Who is this? Kolobok? No. This is a smiley face. He is not Russian. He was born in America. And his name is derived from the English verb “smile” - to smile. Sometimes I see it drawn on posters, on badges, on T-shirts. He reminds us of one important rule of international etiquette: “Don’t complain about life often. Don't complain especially when you say hello. There is no need to immediately talk about your troubles and troubles. Now smile. And if things aren’t going well for you, find another time to talk about it.”

That’s why the question “How are you?” we most often answer: “Thanks, good!”

And I also wanted to tell you: if the meeting is unexpected, then after greeting you can say: “What a pleasant surprise!”, “What a pleasant meeting!”, “I haven’t seen you for a hundred years!”, “How many years, how many winters?” !

Role-playing game

Teacher. Let's play. Let's split into pairs. One of you will play your role - the role of a 3rd grade student. And the second will turn into a school director. And now Masha Moiseeva is no longer Masha, but Maria Vladimirovna. In the morning at school she meets Christina. Christina, of course, says hello; Maria Vladimirovna answers and asks: “How are you?” Now Christina answers. Let's try!

(Children work in pairs.)

Well, guys, how did it turn out? At what level were you talking? (At “our” level.)

And now a 3rd grade student and someone’s dad meet. What is your dad's first and middle name? Role play this situation.

(Children work in pairs.)

Summarizing

Teacher. The habit of remembering and correctly naming the names of your interlocutors and friends is one of the secrets of friendly relationships. Some people don't want to take the time to remember names. But this is one of the simple ways to win the favor of others. How to do it? When you hear someone's name, you need to say it to yourself. Then repeat it again in conversation. At home, you can write the name in a notebook. After all, some people have visual memory, while others have auditory memory.

Homework

Teacher. Say hello to one of the adults whose name and patronymic you know. If this is a good friend (for example, your friend's mom), ask how they are doing. Listen politely to the answer. Let your mom rate you.

Additional material

From time immemorial, words of greetings have been heard on our planet. In Rus', for example, wanting to show the greatest degree of respect, they knelt down and bowed to the ground - they hit them with their foreheads. At the same time, as an eyewitness wrote, the sound of an impact could be clearly heard. When they met equal in position, they simply bowed to each other, but at the same time trying to make sure that the other did not bow lower. And since no one wanted to be less polite, they bowed three or four times, “competing to show mutual honor.”

Ivan the Terrible was haunted all his life by one painful childhood memory. The Sovereign of All Rus', one of the most powerful monarchs, at the very height of his power, could not forget the moments of humiliation he experienced in childhood. In a letter to A. Kurbsky, he writes about the time when the all-powerful boyar Shuisky pushed him around, the young Tsar Ivan. How? It turns out that Shuisky did not consider it necessary to greet the heir, greeting him: “And he did not bow to us.” The little boy remembered this insult for the rest of his life. “Such are those who can bear pride!” - he writes bitterly to A. Kurbsky.

A person who refuses to greet another must have good reasons for doing so. Callisthenes, for example, had such moral reasons for refusing to fall at the feet of Alexander the Great. This is the story.

The Greeks became familiar with the custom of greeting the king by falling at his feet during the war with Persia. Alexander the Great liked this eastern custom so much that he decided to introduce it among his subjects. When Alexander, dressed in royal clothes and marked with all the signs of royal dignity, appeared before the crowd and everyone, observing the new law, humbly prostrated before him, only one person remained standing. It was Callisthenes. Not only did he not fall at his feet, as required by the new royal decree, but he immediately began to shame Alexander in front of everyone for demanding honors equal to divine ones.

Alexander heeded the voice of his courageous subject. Thus, Callisthenes, as Plutarch writes, “saved the Greeks from humiliation, and Alexander from even greater.” Often, those who refused to bow to the ruler or even his image paid for it with their lives.

Among some Indian tribes, when they see a stranger, it is customary to squat until he approaches and notices this peaceful posture. Sometimes they take off their shoes to greet you.

In the 17th-18th centuries, important counts and countesses, dukes and duchesses, ladies and gentlemen bowed for a long time when they met, using a wide variety of movements.

Tibetans, when greeting, take off their headdress with their right hand, put their left hand behind their ear, and also stick out their tongue.

The Japanese use three types of bows for greeting - the lowest (sai-keirei), medium - with an angle of thirty degrees, and light - with an angle of fifteen degrees.

Russians, British and Americans shake hands as a greeting gesture.

In the old days, when a Chinese met a friend, he shook his own hand.

Laplanders rub noses together.

A young American greets his friend by clapping him on the back.

Latin Americans hug.

The French kiss each other on the cheek.

Samoans sniff each other.

In India, they cross their arms over their chest and bow their head, just as Buddha did.

On Tongo Island they stop at a distance, shake their heads, stomp their feet and snap their fingers.

Since ancient times, it has been customary to remove the glove from your right hand when greeting people. When people were at enmity, the knight, removing a glove or mitten from his hand when greeting, showed that there was no weapon hidden in his palm.

The greeting may also be accompanied by the removal of the headdress. This custom dates back to the 14th-15th centuries. In those days, life was much more dangerous: homeless tramps wandered along the roads in search of prey. Gangs of robbers were hiding in the forests. People were constantly armed. And when setting off on a long journey, they put on chain mail, heavy armor, and hid their heads under an iron helmet. But on the way there is a house where a kind man lives. Crossing the threshold, the knight errant took off his helmet and held it in his hand. “I’m not afraid of you,” he said with this gesture to the owner. “You see, my head is open, I trust you.”

These harsh times have passed, but the custom of taking off your headdress when entering a room remains. This gesture shows respect for the house you came to and the people living in it.

And here are more stories related to the rules of conduct.

On the street, a man usually walks to the left of his companion. Like any custom, this one also has its own history. 200-300 years ago, men did not leave home without weapons. Each one had a sword, or a dagger, or a rapier hanging on his left side. And all officials until the end of the 19th century were required to wear a sword in their uniform. To prevent the weapon dangling while walking from hitting the companion’s legs, the gentleman tried to walk to the left of the lady. Gradually this became a custom.

And this story is a vivid illustration of how one should not behave at the table. After a successful raid on their neighbors, the Norman Vikings feasted in their castle. Then, a thousand years ago, people did not yet know either plates or forks. Servants brought in wild boars and deer roasted on iron spits on huge wooden platters. Having pulled out sharp hunting knives and daggers from their sheaths, the guests grabbed fatty pieces of meat from the carcasses and ate them greedily. Loudly slurping and snorting, they crunched and sucked out the marrow bones with a crash, spitting out the fragments directly onto the floor. The Vikings wiped their greasy beards with their sleeves, and wiped their greasy hands on their leather jackets. Swarms of flies hovered over the tables covered in gravy and beer. The hoarse growls of hunting dogs could be heard as they fought over scraps falling from the table. The sight was disgusting. But in those days this was considered the norm.

Class hour on the topic “Etiquette for me”

Goals:

teach the ability to communicate with people; a set of rules governing external forms of behavior

develop a sense of tact, relying on the child’s world of feelings, so that he correlates the acquired concepts with the experience of his behavior;

education of moral and aesthetic qualities

Equipment: pictures of stars on which etiquette words are written, handout cards with recording situations, cards with the meaning of the words ETHICS and ETIQUETTE, colored stripes

Epigraph:

If you sow an Action, you will reap a Habit; if you sow a Habit, you will reap

Character, you sow Character, you reap Destiny

PROGRESS OF THE CLASS:

1. Teacher's introduction

Before we start talking about this topic, let’s find out what ETHICS and ETIQUETTE are.

Ethics – one of the oldest branches of philosophy, the science of morality (morality), which helps to develop one’s life orientation and makes it possible to evaluate the actions of oneself and those of others.

Etiquette– a word of French origin – is an agreement between people about what is right and wrong in society, what is accepted in society and what is not accepted, mainly considering the behavior of people in everyday life.

Court etiquette- strictly regulated order and forms of treatment established at the courts of monarchs.

Diplomatic etiquette- rules of conduct for diplomats and other officials when contacting each other at various diplomatic receptions, visits, and negotiations.

Military etiquette- a set of rules, norms and behavior generally accepted in the army by military personnel in all areas of their activities.

General civil etiquette- a set of rules, traditions and conventions observed by citizens when communicating with each other.

2. Working with the epigraph

Why do you think this happens?

Whatever you do, you must always remember that you do not live alone in the world. You are surrounded by people, your loved ones, your comrades. You must behave in such a way that it is easy and pleasant for them to live next to you.

4. Game “Finish the sentence”

Having a neat, clean appearance is necessary because...

You can’t walk around angry and irritable, because.....

Telling your grandmother that she doesn’t understand anything indicates...

Delicacy can keep a person from….

To say hello first means to be….(polite)

So what personality traits should you be guided by? (open the stars on which it is written: tact, politeness and other concepts

5. Let's talk about politeness

Cervantes wrote: “Nothing costs us so little or is valued so dearly as politeness.” These are the words that greet you when you enter the school. Politeness is the ability to show tact and behave kindly towards the interlocutor

6. Reading a poem learns

A happy time will come, friends,

Wonderful days will come:

The guys will be friendly with everyone,

They will stop being rude.

There will be no bad children

The golden years will come

And people in galoshes enter the room

They will never enter.

A fresh wind will blow,

The violets will bloom

All the ignorant will disappear,

They will be lost forever.

The violets will bloom,

Spring will come in winter,

And in the school locker room

There will be silence.

Let rudeness disappear forever.

Let it be according to doctors' prescriptions

Appears in every pharmacy

Medicine for rude children.

But sometimes, guys, our behavior, even polite behavior, contradicts etiquette.

being polite, do not forget about tact.

7. Analysis of situations

Situation 1:

A smart, lively woman gets on the bus; Seeing her next to her, a boy rises.

Sit down please!

Well, what are you...Thank you...No need...

Sit down, sit down. I always give up my seat to older people.

What is the boy wrong about?

Situation 2:

Two girls, passing by a boy, scattered apples from a bag. They bent down and collected. The boy, watching carefully, says: “Please pick it up over there, it’s rolled behind the chair.” What is the boy wrong about?

(hang a star with the word TACT on the board)

The main thing is that while observing the details of etiquette, we do not forget about a sincere, welcoming and kind attitude towards people. After all, if all the little details of etiquette are not supported by internal education and high morality, then it is unlikely that etiquette will be of much benefit to the people around us.

8. Exercise “Little things in life”

If you consider the action I’m telling you about to be a small thing in life, then raise a red card, and if you don’t think so, raise a green card.

A man enters the room and greets everyone - this is...

A student is late for school and pushes everyone away at the entrance - this is...

Cry over trifles -...

Sitting at the table, slurping and dangling your legs -...

They promised to call my grandmother on the phone and forgot -...

You are late for the meeting -...

Swallow breakfast hastily -….

Which cards did you pick up the most?

It turns out that you understand correctly: from childhood you have to force yourself to do not only what you want, but also what you need. Carelessness in human relationships should not become a habit

We often ask each other: what are you in the mood for? And this is no coincidence. You probably yourself have noticed that when the mood is good, then we like many things, things go well, everything works out, but when the mood is bad, then everything seems to be painted black, and for some reason people around are somehow evil, but good we just don't notice

It’s difficult to give a simple recipe for all occasions, but you can still try.

Observe yourself for a week, marking your mood with symbols and I’m sure this will affect your relationships with others, because you don’t want to deal with a person who turns sour from any trouble.

Well, speaking about our etiquette, we cannot ignore the smile. What kind of smile is there?

And one more etiquette tip for me: according to psychologists, this is very effective.

Exercise 1 Choose a smile for yourself (in front of the mirror)

Exercise 2 Collect your forehead into an accordion

This will help you calm down, create a mood and communicate with people.

9. Working with an epigraph

Cultivate the habit of constantly being mindful of those around you:

Don’t push your way through the crowd, helping yourself with your elbows;

Cover your mouth with your hand when you cough or sneeze;

Don't forget to say the "magic words";

Help an elderly person or a child;

If something is being played out or shared in a group, try to be the last one to come up;

Help adults maintain the cleanliness of the world around us: do not litter on the street, in public places;

Remember: you are a human, behave like a human!

Rules of etiquette

With Sovushka - a smart little head.

(Classroom hour)

Subject : "Rules of etiquette".

Goals . Teach to analyze and evaluate communication, speech, behavior among others; distinguish true politeness from ostentatious one; consolidate knowledge of the rules of behavior and speech etiquette.

Educational materials . A drawing depicting an owl - a symbol of wisdom; 7 envelopes with questions and 7 envelopes with answers, arranged in the order of the colors of the rainbow - a symbol of children's joy and happiness.

Progress of the lesson .

Teacher. The topic of our conversation is “Rules of Etiquette.” I would like you to remember the rules of behavior for a polite person and be able to immediately assess whether this or that person, or you yourself, did the right thing.

Our conversation will be unusual. It's a bit like the game show What? Where? When?".

Our assistant will be the Clever Little Owl - it’s not for nothing that the owl is considered a symbol of wisdom. Around her you see colored envelopes with questions and answers.

The teacher spins the top.

You will be the experts. Let's open the red envelope and see what kind of question it contains.

Friend, friendship - what good words! Can you always be good friends and be responsible for your actions? Let's see if Alena and Seryozha behave correctly in the story “Bitter Orange”.

Bitter orange.

Alenka was sitting on a bench and looking around cheerfully, holding in her hands something that from a distance looked like a small melon. She plucked off the peel in pieces and threw it on the ground.

- What do you have? – asked Seryozha who ran up.

- Don't you see? – Alenka muttered.

- Mandarin! – Seryozha was delighted. – My dad bought it for me too. I treated you too...

- But I didn’t guess right.

- What then?

- Orange! – and the pink slice disappeared in the mouth.

-Will you let me try?

- Yes, it is tasteless, bitter and sour.

- It’s okay, give me at least a slice.

“I’m telling you, he’s filthy,” and jumped off the bench.

And at that very moment the orange slipped out of her hands and fell. The girl yelped and cried.

- Why are you crying? He's filthy!

Uch. Is Alena right? What did she forget? What did you do wrong? What would you do in her place? Now we will compare your answers with the correct answer that the Owl offers us.

Reading Owl's rules about friendship and camaraderie.

Talk to your friends politely and affably.

Help your friend, don't wait for him to ask you for help.

You must sincerely rejoice in the successes of your comrades - you will be considered a good friend, an honest person.

Stop your friend if he is doing something bad.

To have friends, learn to be a good friend yourself.

Be responsible for your mistakes yourself, do not shift the blame to others.

Let's see what's hidden in the other envelopes.

The teacher spins the top.

In the purple envelope is this question: are you familiar with the rules of hospitality and gratitude for gifts? Pay special attention to the heroine of the next story.

The guys perform the “Birthday” skit.

Birthday.

Getting ready for their classmate Nina's birthday, the guys prepared gifts. Natasha embroidered a napkin, Slavik took a book of fairy tales, and Yura took flowers. The guys have arrived. Nina opens the door and greets them.

- Hello, Nina, we congratulate you, we wish you...

- Stop! Take off your shoes immediately, we have varnished parquet. Where are the gifts?

Friends handed her gifts. I didn't want to talk.

- Gifts for me too! Yes, I have a whole shelf of fairy tales. And there are twenty napkins, and not homemade ones, but Chinese ones. Okay, come on in. Just don’t touch anything, don’t touch the walls - you’ll get it dirty.

The guys looked around and went back to the door.

-Wait! Where are you going?

But the guys left without listening to her.

Teacher.Why did the guys stop wanting to say good words? What would you do if you were Nina?

The children answer.

I think that no one will ever do that.

Reading the rules of politeness that Owl suggests:

The teacher spins the top.

In the blue envelope is this question: do you know the rules of table manners? The main characters of the fairy tale “The Adventures of Buratino” - Malvina and Buratino - will help you remember them.

Children act out an excerpt from a fairy tale.

At the table.

Buratino sat down at the table and tucked his leg under him. He stuffed the whole cookie into his mouth without chewing.

He reached right into the vase of jam with his fingers and sucked them with pleasure. When Malvina turned away, he grabbed the coffee pot, drank cocoa from the spout and spilled it on the tablecloth.

The girl winced and said sternly:

- Who raised you, please tell me?

- When is Papa Carlo, and when is no one.

- Now I will take care of your upbringing, rest assured.

What did Pinocchio do wrong? What should I have done?

The children answer.

Reading the rules of table manners that Owl suggests:

Food must be taken from the plate with a fork or spoon.

When you eat, do not bite off large pieces - it is unsightly.

Don't talk with your mouth full, try to eat silently.

If you need to take something, do not reach across the table, but politely ask for it.

Take the closest piece from the dish, don’t choose.

Never speak ill of the food your neighbors are eating. If you don't love him yourself, don't spoil the appetite of others.

Don't sit sideways to the table - it's ugly.

Don't crumble the bread, finish the piece to the end. Don't forget how many people worked to bring this piece to your table.

The teacher spins the top.

So, an orange envelope. Our age is the age of telephone communication. Regardless of whether there is a telephone in the apartment, everyone should be able to answer the phone and be able to use it. Now you’ll see if the guys know how to talk politely on the phone.

A scene is played out. Children analyze it and offer their own rules for communicating on the phone. Owl offers precise rules:

It is important to dial the number correctly.

You should say hello and introduce yourself immediately.

On the phone you should speak politely, in an even, calm voice.

It is important to be able to use polite words: please, be kind, hello, excuse me, goodbye.

If a stranger answers the phone, do not forget to apologize: after all, you are taking the person away from work.

Do not occupy a telephone line for a long time.

You should not bother people over trifles, without any business, or call early in the morning or late in the evening.

The teacher spins the top.

Here is the question from the yellow envelope. Do you know how to behave on public transport?

In the bus.

Fedya and Nyusha are brother and sister. Nyusha is 5 years old. Fedya is 9 years old. They went to visit. They had to travel 3 stops on the bus. They got on the bus. Nyusha sat down by the window, Fedya next to her.

- Nyushka, you are blocking the entire window, I can’t see anything.

He jumped up onto the seat and, on his knees, began to look out the window. At the bus stop, an elderly woman got on the bus. She approached Fedya.

- Boy, if it’s not difficult for you, give way, please.

- Please sit down, I'm sorry, I didn't notice that you were standing.

- Thank you.

- Please, no thanks.

How did the children behave? What would you do in Fedya's place? What will Owl advise us?

Reading the rules of the Owl.

When entering the bus, the boy lets the girl go ahead and gets off first.

Coming off the bus, the boy shakes his hand to the girl, as well as to his mother and grandmother.

Younger people give way to older ones, men give way to women.

You cannot laugh or talk loudly in transport. You can’t eat because you might dirty others.

You cannot throw garbage out the window, leave it on the seat, or throw it on the floor.

You need to be sure that you are sitting on the seat and not standing.

If you need to take a ticket or validate it, they politely ask the passengers standing nearby to do this.

The response to a service should always be words of gratitude.

The teacher spins the top.

We have a green envelope. Let's see what's there. ABOUT! Calm, just calm! This is a blitz tournament. What it is? These are three questions that require three answers:

1. What does it mean to be a “polite person”, what should he be?

2. You entered the school and saw the teacher. Who should say hello first?

How will you greet the teacher?

3. Where did the word come from?etiquette ?

The children answer.

Now attention! Right answers!

Politeness - these are not gloves that are worn only on ceremonial occasions

cases, and the rest of the time they are stored in the closet. Politeness should be something that cannot be avoided. Then not only will it be easy and simple for everyone around you to be with you, but you will also feel at ease in any situation. Polite people are well-mannered people who follow accepted rules of behavior.

Polite man – very attentive, well-mannered, pleasant to communicate with.

2. Say hello - wish health, show kindness, respect for acquaintances and strangers. When greeting, try to look your interlocutor in the eyes. If you greet an adult, you need to call him by his first name and patronymic.

Say hello to the teachers first. When meeting, use the following expressions: “Hello”, “Good morning”, “Good afternoon”.

3. At one of the ceremonial receptions of King Louis of FranceXIVThe guests were given cards with the listed rules of behavior. From French cards -labels the name came frometiquette – good breeding, good manners, ability to behave.

IN XVIII century under Peter IThe book “An Honest Mirror of Youth, or Indications for Everyday Conduct” was published in Russia. It set out the rules for how to sit at the table and at what distance to take off your hat when meeting. Here are some interesting recommendations:

- No one dares to walk down the street with his head hanging and his eyes downcast or look askance at people.

“Don’t slurp over the food and don’t scratch your head; don’t speak without swallowing a piece, for the ignorant do that.” Frequent sneezing and coughing is not good for you

There were a lot of such rules, and everyone had to follow them.

Of course, the etiquette of today is far from the good manners of French times, but we still use a significant part of the rules today.

I think that what we talked about in the lesson will be remembered for a long time by you, and no matter what situation you find yourself in, you will behave according to the rules of etiquette - the rules that our assistant Owl reminded us today.

Many thanks to everyone who prepared and performed the skits, learned the poems, and answered all the questions accurately and correctly.

Classroom hour

State Budgetary Educational Institution “Novobryansk Special (Correctional) General Educational Institution

boarding school of the VIII type"

Conversation

« Rules of etiquette »

Developed by teacher:

Sokolnikova S.I.

With. Novaya Bryansk

Explanatory note

A person consists of several fundamentally different parts, or, as they sometimes say, “shells,” each of which is manifested in its own way in behavior and communication, through which etiquette is implemented. These components are the body, the vital sphere, the mental sphere and spirituality.

The established moral standards are the result of a long-term process of establishing relationships between people, both in public and family life. Without observing these norms, political, economic, cultural and family relations are impossible, because we cannot exist without taking into account each other, without imposing certain restrictions on ourselves.

Modern etiquette inherits the customs and traditions of almost all nations from hoary antiquity to the present day. At their core, these rules of conduct are universal, since they are observed by representatives not only of a given society, but also of the most diverse socio-political systems existing in the modern world.

Purpose of the conversation: Tell students how to behave in various situations related to etiquette.

Question #1: They say that etiquette begins with appearance. What should we look like?

Do not forget to constantly take care of your appearance, neatness and cleanliness. Don't neglect the details of your toilet. However, this can only be done at home or in places where there are no strangers. You should never comb your hair, clean your nails, tidy up your suit, etc. at a reception, at a party, in public places or on the street.

Don't wear bright colors or patterns that are too colorful. Choose calm tones and styles that suit you best. Don't wear jewelry just as decoration. You can wear a tie pin, watch chain, cufflinks, etc. because these things are useful, but the simpler they are, the better. Women should be especially attentive to their jewelry.

Do not put a pen, pencil, glasses, comb or other items in outer pockets.

Don't go outside with unclean shoes.

Do not wear a wrinkled suit, unironed shirt, or tie.

Don't wear your hat pulled down over your eyes or pushed to the back of your head. Watch your step. Don't waddle. You should not walk

moving your shoulders firmly, straight, without bending and with dignity.

Don't gesture unless necessary. Always keep your hands under control. Don't put your hands in your pockets.

Don't wear pajamas, a robe, or slippers anywhere other than the bedroom or bathroom.

Don't whistle on the street or in other public places. Don't laugh too loudly.

Don't smoke if it makes others uncomfortable.

Never forget that others pay attention to your appearance and your manners.

Question No. 2: How should you behave on the street?

Street etiquette starts with the simplest: when leaving the house you must be clean, neatly combed and decently dressed. This is an absolute rule with no exceptions, even if you rushed out of the house for a minute to buy a newspaper at the nearest kiosk.

Posture and gait. You have to think about it. When walking, always keep your back straight, step softly - heel to toe, do not stomp your feet or drag them. Learn to walk from a cat. When walking, the body should not sway in different directions, but sway slightly. Don't swing your arms too much, you're not on skis. Your arms should swing a little, naturally and easily. And violent gestures are certainly not allowed, especially with an umbrella or briefcase in hand.

The main law of behavior on the street is respect for those you meet. You should be like a drop of water falling into a river. You should not rush along the sidewalk or frantically run across the roadway. Be especially careful of crashing into oncoming pedestrian traffic. The street is not the safest place. Therefore, it is necessary to be very attentive and control yourself, without plunging into your thoughts or dreams. Especially in transitions, on the side of the road and at intersections. In addition, by “disconnecting” from control of your behavior, you risk clashing with other people.

If you pushed someone, i.e. If you offended someone, then you need to immediately politely apologize - clearly and clearly, to which any well-mannered person will answer: “Please,” and not “nothing,” “oh well!”, “whatever,” or “for God’s sake.” Even if you were hurt, you should not pretend to be a sufferer. You must show restraint.

If you decide to walk along shop windows on a crowded street, stay close to them and not in the center of the sidewalk. Moreover, it is unacceptable to look at a shop window while standing in the middle of the sidewalk. The same applies to the situation when you meet an acquaintance and decide to talk to him. If you are walking along a busy street in a group of several people, then it is better not to walk in a line, especially arm in arm, but everyone should walk separately or, at least, in pairs.

There are times when you have to walk down the street with bulky luggage. In this case, care must be taken not to create inconvenience to others. On the other hand, sometimes it is necessary to help another person who is doing something difficult, for example, to open the door to the subway or to the post office for him. It must be said that the willingness to help a stranger on the street is a trait of a well-mannered person. Another thing is that sometimes people don’t know how to do this, and therefore many pretend not to notice the person in need of support. But if you politely ask them for help, most will respond immediately. If a group of people is standing in front of you, address a specific person, and not everyone: “Would you be so kind as to help me?”

Question No. 3: How should you behave on public transport?

Public transport consists of two groups of means of transportation: 1) buses, trolleybuses, metro, taxis, trains;

2) airplanes, long-distance trains, ships, etc. Of course, in both groups the passenger’s behavior should be polite, but there are certain specifics in each of these cases. Rules of conduct for the first group.

On a bus or subway, people don’t say hello when entering the cabin. This is only done if you constantly travel the same route and often meet the same people; You can smile in a friendly manner, bow your head.

The general rule of good manners applies to public transport: a woman, an older person or a person in a higher position should be allowed to pass in front of you. When leaving the transport, they do the opposite: the man and the younger one get out in front of the woman and the older one. This rule does not work when it comes to superiors, who always go first. This happens because the one who comes out first helps the second one out, and the rule becomes meaningless when it comes to subordination. In other words, you should not shake your hand to your boss when exiting a vehicle (unless, of course, he is a woman).

If there are a small number of empty seats, the elderly, women and disabled people should sit in them. But a woman should not offer her place to a man unless he is disabled or very old.

When inviting a person to sit, politely point him to a seat and say: “Please” or “May I invite you to sit.” It would be very discourteous to simply stand silently, especially with your back turned to the person to whom you are giving up your seat. It goes without saying that what we are talking about is a voluntary matter, and no one can force anyone to give up their place to another - this is a matter of culture and ethics. Therefore, it is necessary to thank clearly and articulately for this.

Sometimes you have to watch how someone standing in a transport “scolds” those sitting, especially young people, for not giving up their seat to an old man or a woman with a child. This should not be done, because politeness at the expense of others is not politeness, but something else. Wouldn't it be better to politely remind one of them about this in a low voice, without attracting everyone's attention?

Rules of conduct for the second group.

Now let's move on to the second group of public transport. On the train you travel with your fellow passengers for several hours, so when entering the compartment, you need to greet them, regardless of your intention to start a conversation with them. But when the train arrives at its destination, when leaving the compartment, be sure to say goodbye to them and wish those traveling further a safe journey - even if you didn’t say a word to them during the trip. Of course, it is not necessary to shake hands, unless you have established a more trusting relationship with one of your fellow travelers. On the plane, you need to say hello to those sitting in the adjacent seats, and also greet the flight attendant who invites you to board the plane. The same should be done on trains, excluding, of course, greeting a non-existent conductor. On long-distance planes and trains, where all seats are numbered, it happens that one of the inattentive passengers sits in the wrong place. If, therefore, your seat turns out to be occupied and it is important for you to sit in this particular place, politely point out to the unlucky passenger his mistake. Otherwise, if you are rude, your trip will be less enjoyable. Or you can sit in an empty seat. Often this is not that important. The most common activity during long-distance (and not only long-distance) travel is reading and talking. Some people love to read on public transport. Reading newspapers on public transport is not an easy task, especially during rush hour. But I really want to know the latest news! But at the same time, you need to make sure that you rustle the pages as little as possible and do not put the newspaper on the passenger sitting in front.

You should talk quietly in transport, trying not to disturb those who are busy reading or decided to take a nap. It is perfectly acceptable to engage in conversation with other passengers, as long as it is not about anything too personal and you have something to add. If the conversation is of an intimate nature, you cannot interfere,

Currently, the previously existing rules that stipulated who, with whom, when, where and how can start a conversation have been slightly simplified. For example, only those senior in status could invite those below them to take part in the discussion. Establishing a “hierarchy” of individuals was sometimes difficult. Therefore, any reasonable change in the rules of behavior towards greater democracy and freedom of behavior can only be welcomed.

Question #4: How should we behave in stores?

There is some difference in behavior in a small specialty store with personal service and in a supermarket where you are left alone with a trolley and shelves of goods.

Small store

In the first case, when entering a store, you should definitely say hello. It is not customary to say hello in supermarkets or department stores. You can, of course, smile at the cashier, not to mention the case when you constantly use this store and meet the same employee.

Often in stores where the customer receives individual advice and service and where he frequently shops, the salesperson knows the customer's name and addresses him accordingly. If the seller does not wear a nameplate, then the buyer can ask the seller about this and even ask him to write it down, since it is difficult to remember the new name the first time. Sellers often recognize the name of a regular customer from a written check or order form.

Supermarket.

If a client is in a large store for the first time, he usually turns to the employees for help. The opposite situation also happens: the employee persistently offers his services, but the visitor, on the contrary, would like to inspect everything on his own. But the employee follows on his heels. We must understand that this is his official duty and enter into his position.

If you need some product in a supermarket, but there is no consultant nearby, politely ask another visitor. If they contact you, always answer in a friendly manner, even if the form of address was not very polite, like: “Listen, where is this...”. This way you are more likely to help the other person understand his tactlessness.

Question No. 5: How should you behave in public places?

Be polite to others or passersby. Don't forget to apologize if you have caused concern or inconvenience to others.

Don't stare at others. Do not point at people or objects.

Do not turn around and do not look after the people who have passed. Don't eat on the go.

Don't forget to take off your hat if the occasion forces you to address an unfamiliar lady. Take off your hat if you pick up a lady's dropped glove or handbag.

In the theater, when walking between the rows, walk with your back to the stage.

When entering the cinema, do not forget to take off your hat. A man must remove his hat in the foyer.

If two couples are seated in the auditorium, the ladies sit in the center, the men on both sides. In the spoon, the ladies sit in front, the men behind them.

A man entering a Christian church takes off his headdress. A woman should not enter the temple with her head uncovered. A Muslim must remove his shoes before entering a mosque. A Jew, entering the synagogue, covers his head.

When traveling, do not forget to pay attention to your clothes. In some cases, for example, when traveling by ship, you should inquire about generally accepted clothing.

When traveling abroad, do not forget that the morals of your country are judged by your behavior. Follow the rules and customs of the country where you are.

Don't forget that in many countries it is prohibited to take photographs from the window of a train, ship or airplane.

When leaving by train, do not block the car windows unnecessarily, as your companions may also want to say goodbye to someone.

In a compartment, do not open the window without first asking the consent of other passengers.

You should behave correctly in the compartment. It is indecent to put your feet on the opposite seat, smoke, talk too loudly, have fun, sing, whistle, etc.

It is not necessary to introduce yourself to the companions with whom you are traveling in the same compartment. However, when entering the compartment you need to say hello, and when leaving, say goodbye.

Don't be embarrassed by not knowing how much to tip at the end of your trip. You can ask a fellow traveler who is more experienced than you about this. Ticket prices on many airlines include a tip.

When driving a car, not only remember the traffic rules, but also do not forget about the convenience and peace of mind of other drivers and pedestrians. Don't honk unless necessary. When driving along a wet, muddy street, do not forget that your car can splash pedestrians and other cars with mud.

When using public means of transport, you should not push or break the queue. At the same time, the rules of good manners recommend letting the elderly, women, mothers with children, sick and disabled people go ahead. Young people should give way to women and the elderly. Littering, throwing used tickets, pieces of paper and other garbage on the floor is indecent.

Question No. 6: How should you behave at the table?

Don't be late if you are invited to lunch, breakfast, dinner, tea.

Do not sit down at the table until the ladies are seated or until the host or hostess invites you to take a seat.

Do not offer your left hand to a lady when you accompany her to the table. A man should always offer his right hand to a lady.

Don't forget that the lady sitting next to you, especially on your right hand, has the right to your attention. The lady sitting next to you should be occupied regardless of whether you are introduced to her or not.

Do not introduce people after the guests have sat down at the table.

Don't sit too close to or too far from the table.

Do not tuck the napkin into your collar or lay it across your chest. The napkin should be placed on your lap.

First of all, it is necessary to serve the ladies.

Don't eat soup from the end of a spoon. Don't ask for a second helping of soup.

Don't bend over the plate. Stay as straight as possible.

If you want to get something, don't reach over someone else's plate.

Don't take the bread with a fork, take it with your hand.

Don't bite into a whole piece of bread. Don't butter a whole piece of bread. Break the bread into pieces and spread them. Don't crumble bread into soup.

Don't eat from a knife. Never put a knife to your mouth. Do not put on a fork with a knife. Take as much on the fork as can easily fit on it.

Don't eat too fast.

Don't stuff your mouth with too much food.

Don't spread your elbows. Elbows should be pressed to the sides. Don't put your elbows on the table.

Don't raise your glass or glass too high. Don't eat with a spoon what you can eat with a fork.

Don't try to scoop up the last spoonful of soup, eat the last piece of meat, etc.

Don't serve your own plate asking for a second helping. Let the servant do it. It's better not to ask for a second helping at all.

Don't spit bones or anything onto the plate. The bone should be removed from the mouth using a fork held against the lips and then placed on a plate. Fruit seeds should be removed from the mouth discreetly onto a spoon.

Don't ask your neighbor to give you something if there is a servant nearby.

Do not play with a napkin, fork or other table utensils. Don't wipe your face with a napkin. You can only lightly swipe the napkin over your lips.

Don't turn your back on someone else if you intend to talk to your neighbor. Don't talk to others through your neighbor.

Don't talk with your mouth full.

Don't lean back or slump in your chair. Try to always be calm.

Don't drop your knife or fork. But if you dropped it, don’t be embarrassed, ask for another one, without attaching importance to what happened. In general, it is better to make mistakes than to try not to make them with effort and attracting the attention of others.

Don't use a toothpick at the table unless necessary. At the very least, do it quietly.

Don't constantly treat your guest. Don't drink a lot of wine.

As a host or hostess, never finish your dish first. Wait until they finish, there are guests. This is especially important when the last course is served.

Don't ask for a second cup of tea or coffee until guests have received their first.

Do not make any comments regarding the food served. Don't criticize what is served to the table.

Do not refuse any dish, citing the fact that you do not like it or that it is harmful to you. It is best to refuse without explanation. Don't talk about your illnesses at the table.

Do not put a teaspoon in a glass or cup. After stirring the tea or coffee, place the spoon on the saucer.

Don't fold your napkin after you've eaten. The napkin should be casually placed on the table.

Don't forget to get up from the table after the women have stood up. Remain standing until they leave the room, and then you can sit down again if you intend to stay and smoke at the table.

Don't read letters or documents at your desk.

Question No. 7: How should you behave when visiting?

An unexpected visit almost always causes anxiety, so an unannounced visit is only permissible if absolutely necessary. If you pay a visit, do not enter the living room or office wearing a coat. You can only take a hat and a cane with you (but not an umbrella). It's better to leave them in the front.

Don't come in without knocking.

Do not enter the office with a smoking cigarette, cigarette or pipe.

Do not extend your hand to a lady first, or to a person who is older.

you by age or rank until they offer it themselves.

Don't rush to sit down. You should wait until you are invited and when the host or hostess sits down. Sit calmly and confidently, do not make unnecessary movements.

Do not look closely at furniture, paintings and other objects. Remember to stand up every time a lady enters the room.

Don't introduce a lady to a man. A man, regardless of his position in society, always introduces himself to a lady. Younger men and women should be presented as older, and not vice versa. Before you introduce anyone, it is useful to make sure that both parties want it.

When entering or leaving a room, do not walk in front of the lady.

When getting into the car, let the lady go first. When leaving it, go out first and help the lady by offering her your hand. The same thing happens in the elevator.

It is not customary to say hello and goodbye across the threshold.

Don't try to shake hands with everyone present. You must greet the owner or hostess, but the rest can only be bowed.

Do not touch your interlocutor in order to attract his attention.

Don't talk in public about matters that concern only you and

your interlocutor, or about things that only you two understand.

Don't whisper. If you want to say something that cannot be said out loud, leave it until a more appropriate occasion.

Don't talk about yourself and your affairs. Don't talk about your illnesses, failures, etc.

Don't try to take over the conversation entirely.

Don't talk about people those present don't know. Don't joke harshly at someone else. Don't make fun of others for their

manners. If someone sneezes in society, ignore it. Don't interrupt the other person. Don't get into arguments over trifles. Don't look for an opportunity to make jokes.

Don't tell old stories, jokes and anecdotes.

Don't flaunt the fact that you are good at art or technology.

Don't refuse to sing, play an instrument or say something if you are asked and you can actually do it.

Don't be sullen because you feel like you're not being noticed. Don't show dislike towards boring or annoying people.

You will be truly polite if others do not notice your irritation or upset.

Don't forget to be considerate of older people. This especially applies to young people, who, due to carelessness, are often not attentive to their elders.

If there is dancing at a reception or at a party, do not forget to invite the hostess, as well as her daughters, to dance.

When inviting a lady to dance and escorting her to her place, you need to offer her your right hand.

Do not abuse the hospitality of your hosts by staying too long.

When visiting, do not dispose of flowers and do not take them with you if they were not given to you by the owners.

Don't look at your watch often. Learn to correctly determine the time when you can leave. If you really need to leave before the other guests start leaving, do it without others noticing, after apologizing to the hosts.

When you are visiting someone in their house or country house, don’t forget to inquire about the hosts’ customs: is it possible to smoke in the bedroom, what time do you get up and go to bed?

In this case, do not forget to take with you such things as shaving accessories, a toothbrush, and cologne.

Don't be late for the table.