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The correct development and upbringing of young children is not limited to his communication in kindergarten or school with his peers, educators or teachers. Very often, after kindergarten or school, a child is left to himself. This is not quite the right approach. In this article we are talking about the need for active participation in the educational process of fathers - especially when it comes to boys. It is the father who must play the most important role in the process of the formation of the child's personality and his social adaptation. And this is not surprising: in fact, as a rule, for boys, it is the image of the father that becomes an example which they aspire to imitate as they grow older. That is why the best tactics for fathers to raise their sons are sports, games and other types of active pastime in which parents can and should take part with their children. We bring to your attention the most obvious and affordable joint activities of fathers and sons, which are not only the right educational tactics, but also allow parents and children to become closer to each other and have a great time together.

What do father and son do in their spare time?

-- Boys at a very young age simply love to help their fathers at work. This activity flatters their pride and emphasizes their sense of self-worth. Try to come up with things like this. in which your son could prove himself to be your worthy assistant. For example, think about some joint work on a simple repair of something for the weekend. The elementary process of cleaning in the garage or workshop can give your offspring a remarkable surge of enthusiasm and creative ideas. In every possible way, let's understand the child that his help is very important to you, and do not forget to appreciate his work. If you make it a rule to regularly hold such joint events, then, believe me, you will not only become the most important life example for your son, but also become much closer to the child.

-- The ideal option would be to have a hobby that suits both the child and his father. Try every time to devote all your free time to this activity with your son. It can be anything - fishing, wood carving, sports, swimming, reading, and so on. You just need to make sure that your offspring is interested in this occupation no less than yours. But never try to impose your hobby on a toddler if he does not accept it. A hobby is a hobby that should only give pleasure; and no occupation, if they are forced to do it under duress, will not bring pleasure. But if your son really likes your hobby, then his only cherished dream for a long time will be alone: I wish dad had free time to indulge in a joint favorite activity with him. After all, nothing binds stronger than a common favorite thing, right ?.

-- Accept as a natural reality the need to take a permanent interest in what is going on in your son's life. Communicate with his friends, educators, teachers - with everyone who only comes across your child on his life path. This will not only allow you to keep abreast of all the events in the life of your son, but also allow you to become closer to him. However, your interest should be sincere, and not look like a total system of control over the life of a child.

Basically, even these simple rules will help your son realize his importance to you. That is why, the joint pastime of father and child is considered not only an excellent tactic of the educational process, but also helps to get closer to your son. Of course, you should not forget that on your part the interest must be sincere - only then the soul of the child will sincerely reach out to your soul.

The role of the father in the upbringing of children cannot be overestimated. Children, even at the tiniest age, need to communicate with both parents equally. What can a dad do alone with a child up to a year old? After all, mom can not always be there. Let's consider this question.

So, the baby is full and clean. He doesn't sleep and doesn't want to sleep. What should dad do with him? Let's look at age.

0–3 months

From zero to three months, the child, on the one hand, is completely helpless, and on the other hand, it does not require much. He still can’t hold his head, but his tummy can bother him. Therefore, take the baby and put it on your stomach. It's good for him. Just remember a few rules:

• the umbilical wound should heal completely;
• can not be laid out on the stomach immediately after feeding;
• the first laying out lasts several minutes, as the child grows older, the duration is increased;
• the baby should be comfortable: if he shows signs of anxiety, take him in your arms and calm him down.

And what to play with a dad with a baby up to 3 months? Bright and safe rattles to help you. The baby sees them at a distance of about 20-30 centimeters. Most likely, a mobile is already hanging over the crib. Baby will be happy to watch and listen to this carousel. Perhaps you have jingling bracelets or socks at home. They can be put on the child's arms and legs. The baby still unconsciously makes waves, and the bracelets ring and attract attention. And speak. Say whatever comes to mind. Comment on any action. The baby will hear the calm notes of your voice, see a smile. This is how a culture of communication is nurtured.

4–6 months

Your little one has grown up. Perhaps already crawling or even learning to sit. He is interested in everything around him. At this age, the most important thing is safety. Yesterday, the baby was lying quietly on the bed, and today he pushed off with his arms and crawled away. Therefore, if you need to leave the room, then put a warm blanket on the floor, spread it around the toys, and put the child next to it or use the playpen.

What to play now? At this age, many children are teething and they tend to scratch their gums with everything that comes to hand. Therefore, teethers and rubber toys are your best friends.

The baby can be engaged in biting off the ear of a rubber hare for a long time. By the way, you can tell how a dog barks, a cat meows, and a cow lows. Very soon, a little linguist will be able to tell such stories himself.

Soft cubes with color pictures are also very popular with children. Let the child hold them, and you show and name what is drawn. Try to speak clearly and legibly: children are accumulating a passive vocabulary, even if they are not yet able to repeat after you.

If all the toys have already been played, then paper can go into action. The wipes are especially good. They are soft, safe and tear perfectly.

7–9 months

This kid is restless and inquisitive. The motto of your house is now "safety in everything". But games are becoming more diverse. Now you can play with various musical toys, children of this age love this very much.

Tired of toys? Feel free to get your mother's pots, spoons, ladles. You get a great orchestra. If you want silence, then go to the bath, get a bowl of water and bathe the rubber ducks.

10 months - 1 year

At this age, the child is already quite large. Perhaps already standing or even walking. If not, encourage him to do so. Most often, at this age, children can already consciously pronounce a few simple words, most often parents hear the cherished “dad”, “mother”. Praise the baby and keep the conversation with him in every possible way. What to play?

Most likely, your house is already full of various toys. Play everyone. With the help of a large doll, you can study parts of the body. Ask the little one: where is the hand? Where is the nose? Find the named parts of the body together, and having found, clearly pronounce their name aloud. Perhaps the baby will try to repeat after you.

Rings can be strung on the cone of the pyramid, or you can build a tower out of them or just roll them on the floor. Build a tower or a fence out of cubes.

The rocking horse is good for general physical development. Riding cars develops coordination of movements.

After the games, be sure to put everything in its place. Do this with a positive attitude and after some six months the baby will already clean up the toys himself.

Dads, be confident. You are doing everything right.

Today we have a post from Yana Kataeva, the author of the 7Yana.tv blog. Three years ago she visited us like, now she works as a family consultant, helping to resolve issues of relationships with children and many other equally important things.

Enthusiastic dads are found in nature, but, alas, much less enthusiastic mothers. If your husband does not show a strong interest in playing with the child, this is an occasion ... to help him become interested.

Ask about childhood.

When your husband was a boy, there must have been something he was good at. Draw pictures, plan, design. Find out more about this and ask your husband to teach or do something for the child. Our dad has already made dozens of wooden swords and staffs for his son, and they invariably arouse the delight of his son and the envy of other boys.

Delegate to your husband what he does better than you.

When during the day the child asks to make a bulldozer for him, answer that dad will do a much better job. And when the husband comes home from work in the evening, be sure to tell him that the child has been waiting for him all day and dreams of making a bulldozer with him. Such "matchmaking" on both sides is beneficial to the relationship.

Respect your husband's right to your own ideas about order and what is acceptable in games.

Very often, mom is ready to allow children much more than dad in their experiments and creativity. Many dads don't like playing with grits, water, or paint because of the mess they make. Find compromises (for example, we play how we want, but we clean the grits from the floor when you arrive) and remember that you do not have a monopoly on the truth.

Raise the authority of the husband in the eyes of children, create a cult of the pope.

The cult of the father in the family is created by the mother.

Here are some ways:

• When he comes home from work, joyfully shout to the children: “Dad, dad has come!”
• Create a ritual of farewell to dad before he leaves for work, as well as his meeting after a hard day.
• Every time a child is happy about what dad did, tell your husband about it.
• Emphasize to the husband that the child is waiting for some event, a joint, even short, trip that can be made with dad (for example, to a car wash).
• To tell my husband in the evening that they remembered him during the day, reviewed the photos - the whole family was waiting for him from work.

Tell your husband interesting little things about your day with the child.

What game did he come up with today, what question did he ask, how did he make you laugh. This will create a sense of ownership in your husband's everyday life.

Offer games and specific activities.

Some dads find it difficult to figure out what to play with their child. They spend much more time with him and are less attuned to the children's "wave". Gently offer: “Maybe arrange a race with dad?”, “Let's treat dad? His leg hurts. Bring a doctor's kit”, “Misha has a shop today. Buy something from him while I set the table.”

Avoid criticism.

Moms are very upset that, while staying with their children, dads strive to attach them to the screen of some device. But criticizing, accusing, ironic is completely useless. It is better, again, to gently suggest: “Today there was already a lot of screen. Maybe look at the pictures in the encyclopedia?

Strengthen the camp "I + Husband".

This is my favorite. I often observe a strong bias in family systems: a strong “mother and children” camp and a weak “husband and wife” camp. There is no more reliable way to extinguish a husband's interest in activities with children than to give him the feeling: "they have their own life here, and I'm superfluous."

Leave the kids with dad.

And go for a walk yourself. Everyone benefits greatly from this. 🙂 It's okay if you return to the mess, and the children will be doing idleness, and not developing things. It is very important for dad to find his own style of communication with children. This is much easier to do in your absence.

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